After 28 years of marriage…

Your husband expresses his love for you but admits uncertainty about being in love with you.

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Marriage is a commitment, a covenant not a contract. Though , I got married at 16 and left him for my now 28 year Marriage. So, I’m not judging at all.

But to keep the flame alive and burning, requires effort, love, and patience on both parties. Not just one. However, what happens when one of the partners starts to feel unsure about their love for the other and the other partner has loss both parents and a big sister, got very sick, and is still sick. Is it possible that the unsure spouse just checked out mentally? Became hard hearted?

After this many years of being together? The children, the grandchildren, the ride or die. This is the situation that many couples face, and it can be heartbreaking, especially for the spouse who is still in love. In this post I’d like to get some responses back from you all if possible. 🙏🏻

But, we will discuss what one can do when the other doesn’t know – if their in love after 28 years of marriage. To me that should be a very easy question to answer.

Firstly, it’s important to understand that do people change over time. For the better it for the worse, it’s in your vows. Should that sway your -built on a solid rock foundation Marriage?- Or maybe it was never what you thought? What you felt when you first got married may not be the same, as what you feel now.

In my eyes it should be stronger! More comfortable! But, unfortunately the new norm is they just make social media or the next best thing an outlet for escape and never have to be normal to communicate with your partner.

If your spouse is unsure about his or her love for you, it’s essential to have an open and honest conversation. Find a quiet and comfortable place where you can talk without distractions. Start by expressing your concern and how this uncertainty is affecting you. Allow them to share thoughts and emotions without judgment.

Once thoughts have been expressed, it’s time to explore what you can do as a couple. Ask what the other needs from you and what you can do to help them through this difficult time. It’s important to remember that love is a two-way street, and both partners need to work together to overcome challenges.

During the conversation, it’s crucial to listen actively and avoid interrupting and defensive attack. Give time to express, try to understand perspectives, and what might be causing the doubts. It could be that one is going through a midlife crisis, feeling unfulfilled in their career, or struggling with personal issues, financial is the big one. I’ve Never understood that because the way I love, I’d give you everything i could.

If your mate is still unsure about the “in love” with you part, it might be a good idea to seek professional help. A therapist can help both of you work through your feelings and emotions in a safe and supportive environment. They can also provide you with tools and strategies to improve your communication and strengthen your relationship.

In conclusion, when a spouse doesn’t know if their in love with you after 28 years of marriage, it can be a difficult and painful situation. However, it’s essential to have an open and honest conversation, listen actively, and work together to overcome any challenges. Seeking professional help can also be beneficial in navigating this complex issue. Remember that love is a journey, and it requires patience, understanding, and effort from both partners.

Any thoughts are welcomed!


Jonie Alcorn

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